How do you fill a 50-minute coaching session? When I first started coaching, I was terrified because I didn’t know what I was going to talk about. How did I make those minutes really, truly valuable for a client—valuable enough that they would keep coming back and refer their friends? Over the years, I’ve come […]
Everyday Practices to Build Trust
As a leader (and as a person), your most valuable resource isn’t your money. It’s not your title. It’s not even your time. It’s trust. Trust is the currency of relationships. It determines how much we’ll risk. Hard conversations, innovation, and healthy cultures are impossible without it. While earning trust pays dividends, it’s gradual work […]
3 Steps to More Compassionate Self-Leadership
“Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the face,” Mike Tyson said. Sometimes, that punch isn’t literal. It’s life dealing you a blow. And it doesn’t even have to be major to knock the air from your lungs—just well-timed. I turned on my phone for the first time since my brother and I […]
The Lies We Tell to Fool Ourselves
April Fools brings to mind pranks, jokes, and humorous shenanigans. It gives us permission to take ourselves and our lives a little less seriously, if only for a day. But the truth is, we’re fooling ourselves all the time, with often harmful results. It comes down to our thinking. We tell ourselves lies in ways […]
Ted Lasso Was Wrong: Don’t Be a Goldfish
Accidental soccer coach Ted Lasso is famous for telling his players to “be a goldfish.” Why? Because a goldfish has a ten-second memory and can’t dwell on its mistakes. That’s a plus, but there’s a downside. Research shows a connection between working memory and our ability to focus. “Individuals who perform well on memory tasks […]
Maximize the Quarterly Preview: 5 Steps to Win the Next Quarter
Time is strange. It can move fast and slow at the same time—a month can feel like an entire year and (somehow) a single day. Last quarter is gone. You’ll blink and this next quarter will have disappeared. When it does, you might be left wishing you’d started with a plan. The good news? Now […]
You See, You Do: The Importance of Visibility
Bad news first: You don’t default to doing good, hard things. You probably default to conserving energy and hedging your bets. It’s nature’s way of protecting us. But it’s not very satisfying, is it? Most of the time, it’s the struggle and sense of adventure a challenge presents that leads to the greatest personal satisfaction. […]
Battling Nameless Fears to Get Your Life Back
Fear makes a terrific short-term motivator. If a vehicle is careening toward you or a big branch snaps just behind you in a forest, the release of adrenaline and cortisol might just save your life. Fear is designed to keep us safe. And most of the time, it does a pretty great job. But fear […]
Creating a Life Plan
You can live your life on purpose. It begins by creating a “Life Plan.” This won’t insulate you from life’s many adversities and unexpected twists and turns, but it will help you become an active participant in your life, intentionally shaping your own future.